Sunday, 8 November 2009

Jealousy


When in a romantic relationship, feeling jealous up to a certain degree can be normal and healthy. However, jealousy can also be a very negative feeling which can destroy human relationships.

Jealousy is not the same thing as love. Sometimes, people think that by feeling jealous about someone, they e love them. Jealousy is not love; it’s the fear and anger of losing love. Jealousy disappears when you  truly love yourself and others for whatever experience you’re having.
We should learn to be happy with ourselves and what we have. Everyone is different, and each person has good and bad qualities. It's important to realise that each one of us has the potential to create a better future.
Talking about our problems with someone helps us feel that these jealous tendencies are a private matter.
Irrational jealousy usually stems from our own insecurities and low self-esteem. Address these issues first.
Be happy for the other person. When you are jealous, you may think, "I like that; it would be nice to have that thing or experience." When you can be happy for another person's success and happiness, you allow positive feelings to flow into your life. Instead of being angry, congratulate the other person. Feel happy for the success of your co-workers or partners, and, most importantly, don't allow jealousy to destroy your relationship or your marriage.
I have never been jealous of anyone's success or happiness, yet I was occasionally jealous in a relationship. However, it was the kind of jealousy that I could control and it was never the reason to end a relationship. How about you? Are you jealous? And if you are how do you deal with it? 

4 comments:

Katie said...

My ex partner's out-of-control jealousy was driving me crazy. I was sick and tired of his constant questions on where I've been, who I've been with, what I was doing. In the end, it ripped our relationship to shreds and I left him. It wasn't an easy decision to make coz I loved him but it was the only way to regain my peace of mind.

Anastasia said...

No, I'm not a jealous person because I think that we all have our strengths and weaknesses and it's up to us to explore them.

Stefania said...

I am jealous but I can control it. I think that a little jealousy adds spice to a relationship. Too much will destroy it.

Christina P said...

I agree that extreme jealousy, like all negative feelings has its roots in our own insecurities and low self-esteem. It's like a disease that destroys the bearer than the victim. However a little bit of jealousy in a romantic relationship can add some more spice and interest.